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Women Who Fake
Peter James

Why do women fake?
Some do it to avoid disappointing their partner. Some women wish to avoid
continued intercourse, massive cumshot and fake orgasm to bring things to a conclusion. A lot of
women are given the message that they are "less than" women if they do not have
an orgasm. Some women realize massive cumshot that their partner is really trying and want to
reward his efforts even though they didn't come.
Some women are afraid of massive cumshot damaging their partner's ego... Let's face it, some men
DO feel mighty sensitive if his partner doesn't come.
What can I do?
You can make yourself an accessible person to your partners. massive cumshot Make sure that you
never say insulting or belittling things to them. You can simply tell them that
you DO care how they feel but you cannot always tell if they have had an orgasm.
Let them know that you will be more than happy to do whatever will make it
easier to come, and that if they don't fake it, it would help you to know what
they do and don't like. massive cumshot Point out that if they DO fake it, and if you can't tell,
it doesn't mean you don't care but it DOES mean that you won't know.
If it's something as simple as taking more time, you're home free. Just extend
the foreplay.
If it's that she needs a different position, or only experiences orgasms with
oral sex, massive cumshot that is certainly something you can work on.
Always let your partners know that you want them to experience as much pleasure
as you do, massive cumshot and that you would like to know what you do that feels good, or that they don't
care for. Let them know that you won't have hurt feelings, and it will help you to please them.
If a woman you're with fakes it after you have sincerely communicated this to
her, it is her issue and not anything to do with you. massive cumshot
If you find sex a way to share and communicate pleasure, and your partners know
this, it should be good every time, even if one of you doesn't always orgasm.
"I have been married for 20 years. massive cumshot My wife just told me that she has never
experienced an orgasm when we were together, but she didn't tell me because she
didn't want to hurt my feelings. massive cumshot I don't know what to think. I love my wife, but
she's been hiding this from me for more than 20 years!
Why wouldn't she just tell me?" A lot of women fake orgasm. Some women in
their 40's or 50's have been faking with their husbands for the entire duration
of their marriages. massive cumshot Almost every woman has faked it at least a time or two.
Which means that almost every man has experienced a woman orgasming who wasn't...
Can a man tell if a woman fakes an orgasm?
The best way to tell if a woman has faked an orgasm is by the way she acts
afterwards. massive cumshot Women usually take a couple minutes to "come down" after good sex
and an orgasm. If the woman you're with is immediately peppy and full of energy,
she might be faking it.
Most women like to cuddle after sex, but a woman who does not orgasm often does
not feel as cuddly. massive cumshot In fact, she's often rather energetic at a time where all
that energy does not make sense - right after you made love. She may want to
make coffee, or do a little cleaning. She will not feel close with you, and she
won't feel relaxed.
As sexual tension builds, so does adrenaline. When we orgasm, the body releases
chemicals that relax the tension. massive cumshot That is why men often fall asleep, and women
seem dazed and dreamy right afterwards. massive cumshot A man or woman who has felt sexual
tension build and has not experienced release will still be under the influence
of the adrenaline.
"Was it good for you?"
Paradoxically enough, massive cumshot if you're not sure if your partner really came, and you
ask her "honey, was it good for you?", you will often only irritate her. Even
worse would be to ask her "Did you come?" We all like to feel that our partners
are paying attention to what we're feeling and experiencing in sex. It is harder
to read women because their orgasms do not include ejaculation - no woman needs
to ask "honey, massive cumshot did you come?" because she knows he did.
Although communication is the key to resolving this situation, it often never
gets addressed.
For one thing, a lot of men are very sensitive about their bedroom skills, and
are likely to respond with defensiveness or anger when told that their partner
did not orgasm. massive cumshot These men often either blame the woman ("you're not woman enough")
or simply make sure she knows that it isn't his fault by making regrettable
statements ("my OTHER partners had no complaints").
If your partners are comfortable enough with you, you can determine more of what
they really feel. massive cumshot But if you want your partners to trust you enough to
communicate, you must be careful not to belittle or blame. Remember that it is
harder for a woman to achieve orgasm, massive cumshot and that this is not your fault. Most
likely she does not think it is your fault, either. She just feels sort of let
down.

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